Making the Most of School Visits: A Guide for Families Exploring Middle and High Schools

Here’s how families can turn campus tours into meaningful experiences:

1. Do Homework Before You Arrive

Spend time researching the school’s philosophy, curriculum, extracurriculars, and support services. Come prepared with questions based on your student’s interests and needs. This allows for more intentional conversations during the visit—like asking how the advisory system works or what kind of social-emotional support is offered.

2. Look Beyond the Surface

Facilities matter, but so does the energy of a school. Pay attention to how students interact, whether teachers seem engaged, and how welcoming staff are to visitors. These subtle cues often reflect the school's culture more accurately than any flyer ever will.

3. Let Your Student Lead

Encourage your student to ask questions, talk to students, and even take notes. The goal is to help them imagine themselves there—not just as a visitor, but as a member of the community. Giving them ownership also boosts their confidence and agency during a transitional time.

4. Explore the Academic Fit

Ask about course structure, learning support, and how the school helps students grow into independent learners. For middle school applicants, ask how the school supports students in transitioning from the elementary years into middle school. For high schoolers, dig into college prep resources, electives, and experiential learning opportunities.

5. Chat with Students and Teachers

Direct conversations give you richer insights than polished presentations. If the visit includes classroom observations or lunch with current students, take advantage. Ask what they love most, what challenges they’ve faced, and how they’ve been supported.

6. Reflect As a Family Afterwards

After the visit, set aside time to reflect—ideally while impressions are still fresh. What stood out? Did anything surprise you? Could your student envision themselves there? These debriefs help distill emotions and observations into clearer preferences.

7. Think About Fit, Not Just Prestige

The “best” school is the one where your student feels safe, challenged, and supported. Resist the urge to chase rankings or reputations alone. Instead, focus on how well the school aligns with your student’s learning style, interests, and emotional needs.

Final Thoughts

Every school visit is an opportunity to build clarity, confidence, and connection. When families approach visits with curiosity and intention, they not only gather useful data—they also empower their students to make thoughtful choices rooted in self-awareness and growth. That’s a win no matter where the journey leads.